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Photo by Nikkie Jay — I have the rights to this image

What Is Tarot?

Let’s talk about Tarot. First of all, it isn’t evil. No cards are evil. The person performing a reading will interpret them according to their own supposition. If you come to anything with bad intentions, you will get a lamentable result. That is true of all things, not just the mystic arts.

Tarot is also not a way to predict the future. Sorry, but when I read your cards, I can’t tell you if you are going to win the lottery and what numbers to choose. …


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I Was The Mother Of Jesus: At least for 40 minutes or so

I was 4 years old when I started full-time primary school and I was way above average for my age. You see I had studied with Mrs Cooper, a retired primary school teacher before that, from about 18 months/2 years old.

At Mrs Cooper’s you didn’t do finger painting, playing in the sandpit or any of the usual nursery school stuff. At Mrs Cooper’s, you learned to read, write and studied maths. I could read a full-sized novel at the age of 4, I could write better than most children that were several years older than myself. …


#BlackLivesMatter

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Photo by Clay Banks on Unsplash

I’ve struggled to find the words to express myself with this one. Unusual for a writer, I know. But, words just don’t seem to be enough.

I am not black, I can never truly understand how a black person feels. But I can empathise and I can educate myself. I can stand next to my fellow human beings and say, ‘I’m with you. I support you. I am against the injustices that you face and I am 100% anti-racist.’

Racism is something that I have never understood, not since I was a small child. Now let me put some things in context for you here so you can quit blaming your upbringing for your ignorance and do something about it. …


The story of this writers fear

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Nikkie Jay: Personal Image, no copyright, free to use

I have seen and read so many articles from my fellow writers…

  • how to make $10K a month on Medium… or more
  • how to get more readers
  • how to grow your followers
  • how I make $3k per story

Basically, how I am doing so much better than you. Now I am not knocking these articles at all. And I do know that the writers are not writing these to say they are doing so much better than me, that is my little insecure interpretation when I’m having a bad day lol. …


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Writers, do your words matter?

How many of you writers get so fed up of people not actually reading your words? I’m not talking about your articles getting readers and making money. I’m talking actually reading your words and attaching the meaning to them that you intended.

I don’t know if it is laziness, stupidity, a dumbing down of society in general or what. But lately, actually for a while now, I have noticed that my words are often misinterpreted. …


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Stop comparing yourself to others, it is just a road that leads to misery. Mums are the worst for this, we really are. There is always someone who is the perfect bloody wife and mother. She’s always so well put together, hair and makeup done… even her clothes are ironed! You know, we’ve all got at least one in our lives.

Her kids are perfect, they get perfect grades, they have perfect manners and are the ones who are always winning the awards at school. She’s probably on the school board of governors, if not the chair. She is involved in all the bake sales because her cakes are always so damn perfect too. And we all want her to fall face-first into that perfect triple chocolate deluxe cake that she obviously never eats herself as she so god damn thin. Am I right? …


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Photo by Erda Estremera on Unsplash

To recap, for those of you that didn’t read my article https://medium.com/@nikkiepearce/does-your-teen-suffer-with-metathesiophobia-b9479d198ad6...

Metathesiophobia is the fear of change, it is a persistent, unrealistic, intense anxiety about and fear of new or different situations, circumstances, or objects.

And my teenage daughter has this in spades. This is not new to her teens, she has always suffered from the fear of things changing since being a small child.

I remember once changing her bedroom around while she was at school. The idea was to give her more space to play. She wouldn’t even go in her room until I changed it back! Another time I painted the cat house and she went mad at me for ‘ruining Norah’s house’. …


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Photo by Becca Tapert on Unsplash

Well, I have been involved in a few interesting discussions over the last few days. To say I am confused would be an understatement. This is one of the discussions which prompted my International Women’s Day articles.

Q: What does feminine mean to you?

A: Weak

A: Barbie

A: Fake

A: Pathetic

A: More concerned about looks than substance

A: Stupid/dumb

The list goes on. Now, I am not saying these were all the answers. Some women, myself included, actually had some positives to bring to the word, feminine. But, it made me think, are some women so desperate to be men that they can’t be happy being feminine? …


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Coco Chanel

I couldn’t have a celebration of feminine women without having the ultimate icon, Coco Chanel. Coco Chanel was born Gabrielle Bonheur Chanel on August 19, 1883, in Saumur, France.

Coco’s beginnings were anything but glamorous. Her father put Coco into an orphanage at the age of 12 after the death of her mother. Coco was then raised by nuns and they are the ones who taught her to sew.

Chanel opened her first shop on Paris’s Rue Cambon in 1910 where she started selling hats. She later added stores in Deauville and Biarritz and began making clothes.

Chanel had an accidental ‘break’ into the business. She told the story of how her fortune was built on an old jersey that she put on because it was cold in Deauville. Chanel had fashioned a dress out of an old jersey on that chilly day and many people asked her where she had got it. So she offered to make one for them and the rest, as they say, is history. …


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Dolly Parton

My woman this year to bring to your attention may surprise you. It shouldn’t, but there is a really good reason I have chosen her this year, which I will get to later.

Firstly this incredible lady has the sunniest disposition of any human I know of. Her whole soul just emanates light and positivity and that in itself is a rare quality that needs to be celebrated. But Dolly Parton is much more than just a happy beacon in a sea of misery.

I apologise now if I get any of the following facts wrong, I am working from memory and what has struck me over the years about this wonderful woman. So please don’t be offended if I get muddled, this is a personal ode to Ms Parton. …

About

Nikkie Jay

Creator of fantastical worlds, mum and part time superhero. Changing the world one word at a time. https://www.nikkiejay.com

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